Kurotowa
Legend
I appreciate the distinction you are making, but not sure if it would really solve the problem.
One group will say, "This causes harm, so needs to be changed."
Another group will say, "But does it really cause harm? And what changes?"
And we just shift the same dynamic to a new word: offense to harm.
It's not meant to be a solution by itself. To put things in D&D terms you're choosing between two passageways; a debate about harm is a challenging gauntlet that leads to the desired goal if you can overcome the trials, and a debate about offense is a false passage meant to lure adventurers into a series of lethal traps before stopping in a dead end. One isn't easy, but the other goes nowhere at all.