The "I Didn't Comment in Another Thread" Thread

[CleverNickName]

This always upsets people when it's said here, but maybe no gaming is better than playing with people whom you don't trust and don't enjoy spending time with.

You can hope for WotC to fix the issues for you, but if the root problem is a social one -- you are in a bad-for-you group -- there's always going to be another problem you want Chris Perkins to resolve for you.

"No, see, it says right here on page 9 that I'm having fun!"

 

[Wofano Wotanto]

This always upsets people when it's said here, but maybe no gaming is better than playing with people whom you don't trust and don't enjoy spending time with.

Abusive relationships are often hard to walk away from, whether there's sex involved or not.

 

[Whizbang Dustyboots]

Abusive relationships are often hard to walk away from, whether there's sex involved or not.

Player: I want to roll to seduce the dragon

DM: OK, let me put my costume on first

 

[Wofano Wotanto]

Player: I want to roll to seduce the dragon

DM: OK, let me put my costume on first

Shades of What's New? and the running gag about doing a "sex in D&D" comic in Dragon. Which did finally show up in the Palliard Press compilation book*, and was predictably restrained to the point of being positively wholesome.

*Weirdly, it looks like Studio Foglio doesn't have a version of it on the store. No XXXenophile either, but they've still got Myth Adventures and Buck Godot. Wonder what that's all about? They sure haven't stepped away from carrying NSFW stuff, given (among other things) the Oglaf trades for sale there.

 

[overgeeked]

It's more than a bit of a stretch to equate a bad gaming experience you don't enjoy with an abusive relationship.

 

[prabe]

Man, every time I see that phrase in that context, it makes me giggle.

 

[MNblockhead]

It's more than a bit of a stretch to equate a bad gaming experience you don't enjoy with an abusive relationship.

Sure. But having to break from a long-time group, even if manipulative and emotionally abusive, is difficult. Not on the same level as breaking up from a significant other, perhaps, but it can be very difficult for some people to accept that they are in a bad relationship with their group and even harder to break away.

 

[MarkB]

Player: I want to roll to seduce the dragon

DM: OK, let me put my costume on first

The weird thing is, it isn't even a dragon costume.

 

[Wofano Wotanto]

It's more than a bit of a stretch to equate a bad gaming experience you don't enjoy with an abusive relationship.

I disagree completely. "Relationship" has far broader meaning than merely romantic and/or sexual, and if you think you can't be in an abusive relationship with a "friend" group you're sadly mistaken. I've seen a few dangerously dysfunctional gaming groups over the years (as well as study groups, book clubs and even a bowling team one time) and I know of one suicide that directly resulted from a gaming club dogpiling one poor guy for what had to have been years of abuse before he finally gave up. He needed help walking away from that poisonous mob as much as anyone else who's being abused, and yes, there was some physical as well as emotional violence going on. I came into that mess in the last months before he died and I will always regret not being quick enough on the uptake to recognize what was really happening to do something about it in time. Like you, I made the mistake of assuming "it's just a game" meant it couldn't matter all that much, and I was dead wrong.

 

[el-remmen]

How many posts/pages on a thread is too many for you to bother participating even if you otherwise would be interested in the topic?