If it is sapient then it has an agenda. If it is smarter and/or stronger willed than the person holding it then it is going to manipulate them into following that agenda.
It may use the charming method, it may withhold its magical abilities, but it may also use subtler methods. Flattery, logical arguments, fallacious arguments, lies and half-truths, compliments, positive reinforcement, repetition, sleep deprivation, brainwashing,.......
As a GM, I'd let the player attune their character, but I'd be giggling while I did it.