From a person who personally loathes the work RJS does Im trying not to be real harsh, but you could become the anti-drizzit and call yourself, in the great tradition of zzzzz's
Bazza
Just give him a cricket bat, take the Drunken Master PrC and flip out and smack bastards in the mouth when you get on the juice, like any sports hooligan worth his colours does on a regular basis.
yep, Bazza the dark eff...
Anyway, back on track to the topic. Most of the male names tend towards what we would consider 'effeminate' because of the way their society is structured that they DO NOT wear the pants, so to speak.
You may wish to give your character pants however, it can get chilly on the surface, mind you, if you do make up 'Bazza da dark eff', pants are optional.
But, I digress.
Find a nice fantasy 'manly' sounding name you like and give it an-
'iel'
'ana'
'elle'
...ending and 'voila!' your a dark elf with a good sounding name your family will like and it'll probably provide plenty of oppertunities to cut some smartarse surface dwellers who laugh at it.
Besides, if they tease too much, just set your sisters on em and peel their skin off with a cheesegrater...